“trans men are sooo whiny for wanting to be in women’s spaces like I thought you wanted to be treated like a man lmao” DID YOU FORGET ABOUT THE GYNECOLOGIST BEING TREATED AS A “WOMEN’S SPACE”? HOMELESS SHELTERS THAT YOU HAVE TO DETRANSITION TO STAY IN? OR DO YOU THINK THE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND SNAPPY PHRASES YOU HEARD FROM VAGINAGODDESS AND HYGENICWOMBYN ON TUMBLR DOT COM
As a biochem student and certified nerd, I feel the responsibility to bestow this knowledge upon as many people as I possibly can:
You do NOT need to “earn” meals through exercise.
You know why?
Because exercise only accounts for about 20% of your calories. The majority of the calories your body burns, it uses to keep itself alive. It uses them to power your brain and metabolism. In fact, your brain ALONE is responsible for spending about 20% of your calories.
Your BRAIN, just to keep itself going, uses up just as many (or even more!!!) calories than all the exercise you do.
Your RESTING metabolic rate is responsible for burning between 60 and 75% of your calories.
You don’t just deserve food because you’re working out. YOU DESERVE FOOD BECAUSE YOUR BODY NEEDS IT TO STAY ALIVE.
As a nutritionist, I confirm this is true
I never thought about the fact that some people don’t know this, but some people’s ideas about nutrition make sense now.
What I learned was that for the average person, it takes 1300 kcal a day just to run your organs. The breathing and digesting and thinking and stuff is what’s using most of the fuel.
you are a VERY complex organism. get enough fuel to keep existing pls
imo if you’re going to call yourself queer and seek out queer community, you need to let go of the idea that the way people identify, present, and choose to interact with other queer people can be labeled and explained. queerness is about saying “fuck societal norms” and sometimes those societal norms include what you think lesbians, gay men, trans people, women, etc. look like, act like, sleep with, etc. queerness is in direct opposition to hard lines and strict definitions. if you are uncomfortable with that, you’re probably not ready to fully immerse in the queer community. get used to being confused and freaked out. that’s the point. celebrate it.
the thing that gets me about about barbie is that barbie land wasn’t even purposefully a matriarchy, barbie land came about because of the way little girls were playing with their barbies, it wasn’t created by mattel it was created by the people using the toys, so the fact that the barbies ignored the ken’s and had girls night every night wasn’t because they had some bias against him, it was just an accurate depiction of how kids play with barbies. I had some ken dolls as a child and they were essential to the plot in the sense that of course my barbie has a boyfriend because that represented the world i saw around me, but also he didn’t have any purpose in my dream world because i was only interested in what the girls were doing because they represented me and how i wanted to be, I wanted girls night every night I wanted the girls to be president and austronauts and not because of some inherent feminist idea but because I was a girl and I wasn’t thinking about boys, ken was an accessory. this movie wasn’t made to change the world but it showed a different perspective than what we usually see which I thought was fun. Men don’t have to be the centre of all our stories and its not even because we hate them, sometimes we’re just not thinking about them
I really hope people online aren’t getting the wrong impression of unions and that they’re flawless Things that will protect them from any and all mistreatment and that strikes are fun little treats union workers get
Unions are People not Things. Union leaders can fuck up. Unions can definitely operate in a way that gets you low wages and poor benefits if you’re not being represented well.
A union by itself does not guarantee you anything. Unions take work and money to run. You pay dues, you go to meetings, you vote. You protect each other in a union. You don’t join a union and magically have everything taken care of for you.
Strikes are a powerful tool but are scary. They’re not a goal to achieve. Unions don’t aim to go on strike during negotiations.
but if there’s platonic kissing whats next??!!!!????? sex without romance??????!? romance without sex?????!!!!? friendship?????? friends with benefits????!!! platonic lOVE????? staying out of other people’s business???????? WHO KNOWSS
I will never understand why stripping is seen as degrading.
Like…the job description is literally “I am so hot that you could never get me in real life so you’re going to have to pay me to dance for you.”
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The purpose of a strip club is to give men an environment in which they can see women as sex toys instead of human beings and not be punished for it.
I’m not saying it’s always bad for the individual strippers, and it certainly makes the guys look more pathetic and desperate than them, but it’s definitely bad for society’s view of women in general.
Former (for now, hopefully permanent) stripper here. I think a lot of people who don’t have first hand experience of stripping don’t understand that the job is about %10 actual dancing at most. There are some regional differences, club differences, I know girls get tipped more in places like Vegas or Atlanta but if you go just about anywhere else, you do NOT make your money dancing on stage. Stripping is not just being some hot and unattainable things gliding around a pole while awestruck men make it rain.
The majority of your money comes from private dances and from tips. If you are in the industry you know that the best way to ensure your income is to gather regular clients. There are two ways to do this: you can either give them sexual favors or you can play along with their fantasy that you are their girlfriend/will meet them outside the club. Both are objectifying and degrading, not fun. Not sexy.
Aside from having to deal with regular clients, stripping means swimming in a sea of misogynistic assholes. Some men get off on hurting women physically, some men get off on making women cry. You could be a 10/10 and you will still be subjected to abusive treatment by men. No matter how hot you are, there is always some man who feels entitled to list all the “flaws” he sees in your body to put you in your place. Stripping means existing every day in an atmosphere of violence and sexual aggression and having to constantly fend off men who repeatedly try to violate your boundaries.
As rude and entitled as the customers might be, they are nowhere near as bad as club owners/managers can be. Coerced sex is as ubiquitous as you’d expect it to be. Managers can force you to work back to back shifts until you drop or develop a coke habit (so you can buy from them), they can force you to give dances to men that smell like piss and they can retaliate against you if you piss off the wrong client by refusing to fuck. I’ve been called a cunt, a bitch, a whore, literally any insult you can think of - and I was Top Earner for almost a year straight. And I put up with it because I couldn’t afford to stand up for myself and lose my job.
And when i’m saying this, keep in mind I worked in the most expensive, “high-end” club in a major metropolitan city for years. I was one of the hot, “lucky” ones. This is the high end. On the low end you’ve got clubs that are actual no-bones-about-it-lube-in-the-goddamn-sanitizer-bottles brothels filled with trafficked women from Eastern Europe and Asia.
I’m sure some strippers are gonna say it’s not degrading yadda yadda, “I’m empowered!” But I’ve never met a stripper who hasn’t had some sort of emotional breakdown on a shift at least once, and that kind of says something.
The privileged sex worker tourists looking to gain some sort of dangerous mystique/male validation/”self-discovery”/whatever the fuck supplemental identity might never experience this, but who cares about them anyway, they are a joke to the rest of us.
tl; dr - take it from a stripper, it is degrading. What I wrote above is pretty stream of consciousness so i’m sorry if it seems unpolished. I just get scared and frustrated when I see things like this and wanted to get this out of my system so I could go take a bath and chill.
advice for recently diagnosed/discovered autistics/ADHD-ers:
yes, it’s normal for your symptoms to become more obvious in the weeks/months following diagnosis. this is part of your brain adjusting to the realisation that those symptoms are… symptoms
yes, it can take a while to adjust to this information. the unmasking process can take years, and that’s okay!
it is also normal to have a “doubt stage” in the months following diagnosis as you move past the “realisation stage”. your doubt does not make your disorder any less real
if you can, it’s really important for you to try to find community. even better if the community is in-person, but there are also plenty of online communities
it’s OKAY if you find that the stereotypical/common ADHD/autism coping skills don’t work for you. if you don’t like stim toys, that’s okay! if you hate the post-it note trick, that’s cool! there are many tools and coping skills out there, and not all of them are going to work for everyone
your experiences are not unique! there will be others out there who understand you (refer back to the point about community)
your experiences are not universal! there will be others out there who have very different symptoms, backgrounds, intersecting identities, etc… and those different experiences ALSO deserve to be listened to
congratulations on the autism/ADHD! welcome to the community!
it’s actually so fucked up that we live in a world where you can get bright red eyes like a vampire using flash photography and instead of acknowledging how much that absolutely rips we try to get rid of it
ALT
